Today I am on to topic six, which is:
The hardest thing you’ve ever been through
I had to think for a good, oh, maybe a second, to work out what the hardest thing I have ever been through is. I know what it is very, very well. Ladies and gentlemen, the hardest thing I have ever been through is divorce. My own, and my parents.
|This girl only went and got married!|
Thanks to my brother for the pic
Let's start with myself (me me me!), you may recall I left home the day after I finished my A-levels and went to live with my fiancé in the Isle of Man. Here I am, looking all young and gothic (he looked young and gothic too, but I don't have any photos of him, I'm afraid - do you?). I was madly in love and full of hopes and dreams, and also had a healthy dose of just plain daftness, and we had a very cheap wedding in a castle, with me in a golden skirt which was rather fabulous, and some white stiletto slingbacks which fit, and that's the only good thing I can say about them.
I'm not going to get into the he-said-she-saids of it all, but suffice to say that the marriage didn't work. Thinking about it now, with most of the daftness knocked out of me, I don't think it could ever have worked, but still. The falling apart of that relationship, and the death of the hopes and dreams tied up in it very nearly killed me, and left me older, wiser, and not as nice. Statistics for teenagers getting married are incredibly bad (I've talked about this before in my post on staying together), and I wonder if it wouldn't make sense in these days when we've realised it's actually perfectly OK to not get married (and that it doesn't matter if you're marrying Martin or Mary), if we moved the age you can get married at to 21. After all it's an awfully big commitment to expect an 18 year old (or, here in Scotland, a 16 year old) to be capable of making. What do you reckon? Did you get married, or nearly so, in your teens?
|My parents and I (is goth genetic?)|
(I think my Grandma took the pic)
My Dad never remarried, which brings its own worries. I wish he had someone
What about you? What was the worst thing you've ever been through?
This post is one of a series I'm doing inspired by Chantelle of Fat Mum Slim's suggestions of 50 things to blog about. If you're interested, here's links to all the ones I've done so far.